Married...and then..

Het ideaalbeeld van de jongeman is om te gaan trouwen met de mooiste vrouw om vervolgens The ideal image of the young man is to marry the most beautiful woman and then start a family. After all, he sees this happening all around him. If everyone does that this way, that will be the norm, and will be happy with it/by that.

As you get older, you get to look at things differently. Naivety is replaced by life experience. You will wonder if the choices you have made have been the right ones. Do you have the right partner, mortgage or career?

Married men are often not so happy with their relationship. Something is missing. The intimacy becomes less, challenges and tension are nil and slure is popping up. Despair strikes and is expressed in irrational behavior.

Most men are in seventh heaven at the beginning of the relationship. Great sex and usually also very regular. But after a few years, this phase turns into becoming buddies of each other. The brother and sister relationship. How could this have happened?

The nightmare for every man,

Perhaps this is familiar to you. Intimacy becomes a battle. She needs less. Your presence is briefly allowed after which you will quickly be physically and emotionally closed again. You are looking for rapprochement (sex) and she does her best to keep her distance. She says she loves you, but physically she doesn't show it anymore or very little.

After a lot of hassle, sex is still done a few times a year. To hear then; 'put it in and do your thing then we'll be done with that for the time being.' This is often the sad image that awaits many men. I call this emotional abuse.

Escape,

It is not wise for yourself to stay in such a relationship. But they see no way out and give up the courage for convenience. That's sad, very sad!

For example, these 3 choices;

1. Settle for the existing situation. "I stay with my wife for the children". Cries of a deeply unhappy man. In the long run, this creates more stress than breaking up. Because children notice the tension between their parents. This is not the example you want to give your children; a miserable, loveless relationship. You should not give up your well-being for someone else, you are entitled to that.

2. Cheating. This is a popular choice. Why? This is a temporary outlet that doesn't hurt anyone, if you do it right. You don't have to give up your material and stable life. You look for passion elsewhere. You may have negative thoughts about this, but people are not naturally monogamous, religions are the cause of this.( 'family, cornerstone of society') It is not a solution to cheat, but it is a temporary enlightenment. (again, if you don't hurt anyone in this.)

3. Ending relationship. Ending a relationship is not easy and fun. But remember that your well-being is ultimately more important than being miserable to death. If you are not happy in your relationship, this relationship is not suitable for you.

   
   

   

Conclusion,

More than 1/5 of weddings beach sooner or later.

Chapeau where it is going well!

Why would you attach the rest of your life to someone you are not happy with?

See for yourself what works best for you.

Don't be a sheep, don't follow the crowd because that's how 'it' should be.

Who ultimately determines your life? ...yourself, right?

Look for alternatives or make a decision.